“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” ~Matthew 7:3-5 NLT
One of the most difficult things for me to accept is someone who is a master at telling other people what’s wrong with THEM, and can never turn that light onto themselves. See, here’s the thing; when you look in a mirror, you only see one person…and that person is you. It amazes me that it seems that some see other people in a mirror that’s only supposed to reflect themselves. They see YOUR faults. They see YOUR flaws. They tell you where YOU are wrong. They tell you how YOU need to grow. But, THEY are…..perfect? Interesting. Be very careful of those individuals who are constantly trying to get you to change and morph into this person that they want you to be, so that it will benefit them. This is one of the characteristics of witchcraft. Controlling.
When we lay aside a critical spirit, our vision becomes clearer helping us see God’s plan for us and for those around us. A habitual fault-finder is a poor advertisement for the Christian faith. According to the teaching of some rabbis in Jesus’ time, God had two measures that He used to judge people. One was a measure of justice and the other was a measure of mercy. Which measure do you want God to use with you? Then you should use that same measure with others. Being critical of others has a blinding effect on us regarding ourselves. When the religious leaders brought a woman to Jesus who had been caught in adultery, here is how He responded: “If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her” (John 8:7). They all left after considering their own hearts. Sometimes in our zeal to be right, we throw rocks at people with our words. But like the Pharisees, we ignore the condition of our own hearts. Jesus is saying, “Open your eyes. Stop evaluating everybody else and take a look at yourself.”
When it comes to our desire to make things better, we all have a tendency to start by looking at other people instead of looking at ourselves. When we view society as a whole or if we start on a smaller scale; if we get it into our heads that things need to change for the better, we usually start from the position that “other people need to change”. We want other people to change to our standards of “righteousness”, we want them to change to what we think they ought to be, we want them to talk like we think they should talk, or act like we think they should act, or dress like we think they should dress, or believe what we think they should believe. We are fast at desiring, even demanding change in other people, but we are pitifully slow on recognizing the need for change in our own lives. We are quick to see the weaknesses, the deficiencies and the sin in some one else’s life, but we are blind to the train wrecks clogging up the tracks in our own lives. There is a big difference in how we think and How God thinks, we always want to change other people, God thinks and works in the opposite direction, He always wants to change me! When God moves to revive me, when He moves to bring me back to Him, He always starts working on my heart to the exclusion of my brother’s heart. God’s issues are with me personally; my brother or my sister belong to the Lord and it is His prerogative to will deal with them in His own way.