What are you holding on to? It’s been said that holding on to anger/grudges is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. We never win by holding a grudge. All we end up doing is allowing the person who wronged us to fill our head space with negativity. “Holding a grudge is like letting someone live rent free in your head.”
The reality is that holding the grudge, even if the facts prove that the other person deserves it, will only end up punishing the grudge-holder in the end. Sure, one can injure the other person emotionally and cause them to hurt, especially if it’s someone who genuinely valued the relationship. But over time they will be able to move past the hurt the grudge-holder is causing while the grudge-holder remains stuck in the vicious cycle of negativity and anger. The only way to break the vicious cycle is to forgive the person who wronged you and let it go.
Another reality is that some people would rather keep holding on to hurt, anger, unforgiveness, simply because it draws attention to them. “Woe is me.” “Look at me, I’m hurting.” “Pay attention to me.” “Pat me and tell me things are going to be alright.” Yes. Many people are this way. Sadly, many Christians are this way. Some don’t want to be fixed because being broken gets them attention. I know a few people that every time you talk to them, they always find a way to talk about how hurt they were YEARS ago. And, I get it. Some traumatic things can happen that will deal you a serious blow! But, my question is, how long are you going to hold on to that pain? You literally have the power to break that cycle of hurt, pain, bitterness, unforgiveness in YOUR hands! DROP IT LIKE IT’S HOT! Let that stuff go and LIVE!
The longer you hold on to those things, you’re giving the devil free reign in your mind and in your body to keep you bound. I pray that you find the courage to take each of those things to the Lord and leave them there! For this reason, so many are physically sick in their bodies. It’s because there is bitterness and anger that hasn’t been dealt with and released. What are you holding on to? Do you want to be free from it? If your answer is yes, then pray this prayer with me now:
Father, I come to you with all of my cares. I ask you to forgive me. I ask you to touch my heart so that I may forgive those who hurt me. Father take me from rage to release. I am casting all of my burdens on You. I release myself from bitterness, rage, anger, hurt and unforgiveness. Father replace those things with the fruit of your Holy Spirit. Thank You Father for a new life. A life of peace and rest in You. I am free. In Jesus’ name, Amen!