The process of letting go is definitely not easy. No matter how many times you say it, and play it out in your head, when the execution of it comes into play, it will be hard. Well, that depends on how long you’ve been attached, and how much that person or thing means to you. But even if it/they mean a lot to you, if it in fact becomes detrimental to your self worth, self esteem, divine connections, family relationships and church or business affiliations, the cord has got to be cut! No matter how bad it hurts, you will heal. This is where determination plays a big part in that process.
A popular artist by the name of Keri Hilson released a song entitled “Hurts Me.” In this song Keri sings about being in a relationship that caused her to become burdened and stagnant. This relationship caused her to lose her momentum. Upon noticing that, she makes a decision to release herself from the situation, even though she knew it would hurt her. Take a look at a few of the lyrics:
“I won’t make it any further with you on my back
Carry a burden I can’t do it this time, goodbye…
I gotta put my foot down and I know if I do
It’s gonna hurt me more than it hurts you
I know, how much you need me
Breaks my heart, believe me
Now I know what I gotta do”
At some point, in whatever kind of relationship it is, if it’s killing you mentally, spiritually and sometimes physically, you’ve got to have the strength to let go. Like Keri stated in the song, it may break your heart, but you have to do it. When doing for others, helping others, pouring into others, dating others, befriending others begins to hurt you more than it helps you, it’s time to release yourself. It’s time to let go.
As painful as this process can be, you’ve got to focus on the future. We cannot progress while constantly looking back. There is a reason that the past is called the past. You have to be willing to put it behind you, leave it back there, on move on with a new life and a new hope. You can overcome any negative situation, relationship or pain from your past, if you just decide to admit, “yeah, it happened, but i refuse to live in it!” Remember that God is on your side and He has a plan for you, but there has to be a willingness to go forward.
Until next week…..